Non-Mattress Sex

The first time I gave a blowjob it wasn’t on a mattress or even in a bedroom.

I was in 7th grade at a little friend get-together at one of my then-BFF’s house. I had a boyfriend but we never talked or anything before this night except through text.


We went into the bathroom when everyone else was watching E.T. and I gave him a “blowjob” but not to completion. I hated it and didn’t want to continue so I just got up. Afterwards, he broke up with me and everyone made fun of me for giving him “blue balls”– I had no idea what that even meant.

I was scared to do that favor for anyone else I dated again because I didn’t want to give them said; “blue balls.”

I stuck to making out and sticking my hands down boys’ pants just for a feel. That lasted until the end of 8th grade/the summer going into 9th grade. I was dating this boy who I thought I was in love with. He was the first boyfriend I had that I was comfortable around– I actually talked to him and sat by him during school. We went to the movie theatre together… during the movie I kept sticking my hand down his pants and playing with his balls. I even remember which movie we were watching… it was 500 Days of Summer. Before the movie ended, we ran into the family bathroom together and I gave him a blowjob (yes, to completion) and it was the first time I let someone stick their fingers in me. My dad was in the parking lot, waiting for me, and constantly texting me to hurry up and get out there.

Photo by Toa Heftiba

When I lost my virginity… I was in a bedroom but there were other people on the bed and futon that were in there so my then-boyfriend and I went into my walk-in closet, laid down on the floor, and did it there.

The boy I lost my virginity to and I often had sex outside… at the benches in public parks (even in pure daylight) was one of our main spots or even outside in the yard of any of our friends’ house (when it got dark). We just never had anywhere that we were welcome to stay and have sex at because we were so young, you know?

Photo by James Pond

Everyone else I was intimate with… I kept it tame and used mattresses to have sex on top of like normal people. When I was a junior in HS; I moved to Washington state and met a few boys I liked. The last boy I had a thing with and I were still seeing each other the day I found out I was going back home to Minnesota. I snuck out of the house and met up with him. We had sex literally inside a bush and I left my undies in there when we finished. K’s dad found us stumbling out of the bush together.

When I came home to Minnesota and got back together with my boyfriend I lost my virginity to… we had sex anywhere and everywhere we could… we walked around to places all of the time. Neither of us had a car or parents that cared enough to pick us up and drop us off.

Photo by Malte Wingen

When we finally broke up, I was already out of High School. I started dating a DJ that played at the first club I worked at. He fingered me inside the DJ booth while everyone else was working. Of course, we wanted to finish what we started but we weren’t completely comfortable with each other (I barely knew him at all). At the end of our shift, we met at his car in the parking garage and had sex. It was the first car sex I’d ever had and the first time I had done anything like that at my place of employment!!

I didn’t have any out-of-the-norm sex adventures with anyone else really until I met my current boyfriend. We’ve had car sex a few times… and one time, we had sex in the family restroom at the Fashion Show Mall. 

Photo by Free Stocks

Where have you had sex that wasn’t on a mattress? No need to answer me if you’re uncomfortable but I am interested… 😉 I feel like sex that happens not on a mattress or in a bedroom is so much more real… like, neither of you were able to wait for a more “appropriate” time. It always seems to be more intense and pleasurable, too– in a way completely different from “normal” sex.

xo, Hunida

Featured Image by Henri Meilhac

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