You probably know by now that I’ve been in the “sex working” industry since I was 19 years old. I started at a small peepshow in Minneapolis and now I’m working at a big strip club in Las Vegas.
This job has taught me so many things in the three years that I’ve been doing it.
- The number one thing I owe to my job is my confidence. I don’t have it everyday but I’ve learned just how important it really is to have confidence in myself.
- I’ve learned that there are customers that will try to break my confidence. They’ll tell me that my butt is too small, I need to lose my stomach, or that my lap dance was sub par. These men are called assholes. I’ve learned to never take anything they say to heart–their sole purpose of going to strip clubs is to try to break the girls down.
- I’ve learned to remember all of the compliments instead.
- Customers also lie a lot. They will tell you things about the other girls that they’ve made up on their own. For example, they’ll say, “so and so told me her real name was Melanie. You can tell me yours.” or “so and so gave me a blow job in the fantasy suite, you can too.” Some things aren’t lies but most of the time they are. Basically, never listen to/believe the customers. The customer is always wrong in this industry.
- You don’t need to do “extras” or anything that you’re uncomfortable with. Even if you know that other girls are.
- I’ve learned to never let any of my co-workers borrow my things unless I never want to see it again.
- I’ve learned that the ruder my co-workers are being to me, the better I’m doing.
- Never make friends with the other dancers but always be nice!
- Money rules everything in this industry. E v e r y t h i n g.
- I’ve learned to always remove my stickers off my new heels, especially the sticker on the bottoms.
- I’ve learned it’s always a bad idea to “shit where you eat.”
- I’ve learned that exotic dancing is not all about pole tricks.
- I’ve learned how to dance sensually to any song–even if it’s upbeat.
- I’ve learned to always keep my toes pointed.
- I’ve learned that every man is different. But yet, they’re all the same.
- I’ve learned to not let my sensitivity take over.
- I’ve learned to bounce back quickly after rejection. And by quickly, I mean in seconds. I have to, so I’ve learned to, immediately wipe the look of defeat off my face.
- I’ve learned how to be someone I’m not and I’ve learned to know when I need to be. I like to call it acting. So, I’ve learned how to be a great actress.
- I’ve learned to not compare myself to anyone else…at least not too much.
- I learn new facts about the world from people who live all over the world everyday.
I’ll stop this list here as I feel these are the most important things I’ve learned so far from my job. This is a list of things I know yet a majority of them I need to remind myself of all too often.